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ted clarity

12:27 Sunday 06 March 2016 JST

So it took a bit of time, but we have finally double-triple-quadruple-confirmed that our cat Ted will our neighbor's cat Ebu because Ted enjoys our neighbors house more than ours. Sad to see him go, but happier to see him happier there than here. Apparently he sleeps with her each night, whereas he rarely/never slept with us.

tedx clarity

12:30 Sunday 06 March 2016 JST

Soness has spoken at a couple TEDx events, and given her extensive training and experience on stage, I figure she can help me figure out how to speak at Pecha Kucha, where I'd like to present a presentation on authenticity.

Synchronistically, Soness is leading an online workshop thing called TED Worth Application, which I'm taking!

Question 1:

Who are you?  What's your message worth spreading?

    I attended a transformational weekend in 1997 called New Warrior
    Training Adventure, organized by Mankind Project https://www.mkp.org/
    
    It gave me a safe space to express my fears, my successes, my sadness,
    my true self.  Whatever I needed to say or express was welcome.  I
    stood shoulder to shoulder with men who were courageous enough to
    simply be there for one another, no matter what the circumstances.
    
    So now we are creating a small group in Tokyo, looking for a few men
    who are looking for authentic connection.  Based on my training and
    the book _A Circle of Men_ by Bill Kauth, we talk about "real"
    topics.
    
    Some recent questions included:
    
    "What's the most difficult challenge coming up in your life?"
    
    "What's one thing you believe you should but are having trouble doing
    it?"
    "What's keeping you from doing it?"
    
    We aren't there to "fix" people.  We don't give advice or tell you
    what you should do.  We simply give a safe place for you to get
    everything out, so *you* can look at it; so *you* can find your own
    best solution.  We hold each other accountable once we make a
    decision.
    
    Anyway, all of this requires trust and speaking honestly.  The word
    I've been using the describe it is "Authenticity"
    
    What if we were authentic with each other?  What if we could answer
    "how was your day" with "I feel sad" ... and for that to be okay?  No
    reason to *stop* feeling sad.  Just be sad and honor the emotion.
    Take a few minutes for yourself to just sit and feel sad.  I'll sit
    with you.

Question 2:

If you are hearing that “you’re not good enough” voice, what does it say?
    No one cares what I want to say

Do you want to quiet that voice? Declare your intention now.
What’s your intention?
    I often find people who are interested in authentic sharing

How does that intention fit with your purpose for speaking?
    Many people will be touched + intrigued by the message and enjoy
    speaking authentically with others.

Who needs to hear your message?
    People who care enough to be honest with themselves and others

What voices would you like to hear instead? What do they say?
    Wow that's right!  I'm so thankful to have a safe space to speak.
    When does your group meet?

Who are 3 people that you’re going to have in your seats
with loving, compassionate, and supportive voices?
    J, T, M, S, P, L