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massive mistakes men make that keep them frustrated fighting and alone

(written 14:54 Friday 25 June 2021 JST)

Massive Mistakes Men Make that keep them Frustrated Fighting and Alone

• Solve, not listen

Jump to action Assume women want them to do something and not just listen. Okay. They immediately jump into service, trying to solve the problems that they hear.

• Hold it in

Be manly thinking they can't express emotions. They have to hold everything in and be strong for the people around them. Whereas, actually, by being a full human, they will be more respected. Whatever it is.

• work is life

They tend to, like work all the time, and don't take time for themselves to do their own self care.

• ignore family

They should take care of the family because there's a lot of love within the family. But if they just ignore their family in terms of like, working all the time, that's not actually long term, taking care of the family. The family needs attention and fatherhood, a father figure who's a real hero, and they're not just a robot,

• show it off

outward appearance professional success is often all up in the head, and therefore, the inner work is ignored by, by consequence, because they're not within their body noticing what's happening downstairs.

• me me me

taking things personally, when stuff happens, and it has nothing to do with them as an individual. Whether good or bad seems to result, don't take it personally.

• know it all

Thinking everyone thinks the way I do, or the people the same thing that I do. This happens because it's more comforting to believe that I know what's going on. That I have everything figured out. And to accept your own ignorance. Yes, that I actually literally know 0.0% of what's going on.

• ignore myself

Trying to please everyone else, instead of at the experience of their own joy.

• overwork

work as virtue Thinking I gotta work, I gotta work, you got to do to take care of the family, it's all external, without taking care of the self.

• ignore emotions

Refusing to grieve loss. Like one of one of my mates had a family member die. And he basically refused to acknowledge the death. He is still trying to live up to what he thinks the family member would have wanted. Like trying to fill the role of the family member who died, as opposed to taking care of his own life.

• Yes yes yes

Not willing to set boundaries (just say no)

• material man

Trying to show off with material, well think focusing on material wealth, to show their success? We have the phrase, American English things keeping up with the Joneses. Why is that a phrase mean? Because people want to look good among their peers. And so what is looked good mean is like, it's the outward appearance. That's the most easily assessed, oh, they have a cooler car, therefore, they must be more successful.

• who, you?

continuous competition Comparisons: money, intelligence, like which school did you go to? appearance in terms of like a certain watch or clothing or How hot is your wife, your girlfriend? kind of thing? Okay. The title on your business card like mine says president yours says bookkeeper

keep them frustrated because competition like that is never fuckin ending. And it's not going to like help anything. But for five minutes like Oh, I got the car cool. And then Okay, now what?

• shame in the game

should all over yourself not accept yourself as you are